It is important to make a plan to ensure your and your children’s safety in the event there is a situation which puts you in danger. You can’t control your partner’s violent behaviour, but you do have a choice in how you respond to it. Some things to consider when planning to leave:
- Find a safe escape route. Designate a place where you can go to be safe, even if it’s only to make a telephone call.
- Program emergency numbers into you telephone.
- Talk to trusted neighbours and friends. Let them know what’s going on so that they can be watching out for you.
- Seek help from the shelter in your area. Call and speak to staff, your information is confidential and they can offer suggestions.
- If possible hide some money you are able to access when you leave.
- Try to remember to take important papers, bank card, drivers license, and identification when you leave, as you may not get to go back for them.
- Talk to your children so that they know which friend or neighbour they can go to if they need help. Make sure that they are aware not to tell the abuser any information.
- Keep an extra set of keys to your home or vehicle in a convenient place so you can have access to them in an emergency.
If you use the internet to find out information about abuse and you fear your abuser may see them, learn how to erase your ‘history’. On the sites you visit, look for the ‘safety’ button, this will usually take you immediately to a safe site.